About Boulder Recovery
Boulder Recovery exists to be a Christ-centered and clinically innovative treatment intensive for Porn Addiction, Sex Addiction, Sexual Compulsivity, Infidelity, Intimacy Disorders and Attachment Wounding.
Our vision is to see the men in these intensives return to an authentic connection and relationship with God, themselves and their loved ones. We are combining leading science on how God created the brain to respond to trauma and adverse experiences with the healing and renewal of life offered in the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
At Boulder Recovery we believe that God wants renewal and healing for this world and all parts of who He’s created us to be – body, mind and spirit.
This program plumbs the depth of men to explore and feel the emotions of their heart, provides education around addiction and neurobiology of the mind, offers healing to the broken places in their soul’s connection to Jesus Christ and establishes effective relapse prevention tools to grow strength around urges to act out.
In this way we can see and experience healing around this debilitating addiction.
Boulder Recovery consists of two programs: The 14-Day Men’s Intensive and the Partner Support Program.
Our Men’s 14-Day Intensives are designed for healing 24-hours a day, whether in intensive group therapy, hiking the Flat Irons, or over conversation at the dinner table. We can take up to 12 men per intensive who live together in community with the common goal of finding lasting healing and sustainable recovery.
Gender-Specific: The 14-day program is highly tuned to respond appropriately and compassionately to gender-specific barriers to recovery. Key considerations in working with our men include male socialization, expressing vulnerability and anger, exposure to sexuality and erotic images at a young age, and misunderstanding abuse and trauma as discipline or a normal part of childhood.
Surface-to-depth experience: The closed group model allows for our clients to engage each other initially on a surface level, then eventually move into more meaningful connection. For the first time in their lives, some of our men are allowed to engage in a truly vulnerable and intimate space within themselves and with others. It’s in this place that true healing can finally occur.
The Partner Support Program (PSP) runs simultaneously to the Men’s 14-Day Intensive and is reserved solely for the partners of the men in this program.
The PSP is entirely virtual and facilitated by a betrayal trauma specialist to help women navigate an understanding of their trauma of betrayal, anger, fear, shame and how to move forward. It offers safety in community, tools for true healing and forgiveness, and hope for the future.
Multiple Modalities for a Trauma Focused Approach:
Internal Family Systems (IFS): Internal Family Systems is a therapeutic approach used to help our clients start to understand the parts of themselves that make up the whole, how those parts are reacting to their environments, and the process of unburdening.
Intergenerational Trauma: With the use of genograms the men in our program start to see some of the ways that core values, narratives and unspoken expectations were passed on through the family, many times without their understanding or consent.
Brainspotting: Brainspotting is a powerful treatment method that locates points in the visual field that bypass the ‘thinking brain’ and access the ‘reactive brain,’ helping to resolve unprocessed trauma. Clients are allowed four individual brainspotting sessions over the course of the intensive.
Inner Child Work: Used both in guided meditation and in brainspotting, our clinical team uses this modality to shed light on how a client may be holding unrealistic expectations for their younger self, causing them to feel shame and isolate that lonely version within them that is desperate for connection.
TINSA (Trauma Induced Sexual Addiction): A model by which the men start to understand their addiction and behavior through the lens of trauma. This model also helps clients start to understand trauma in a new way that includes “the bad” and also “the not enough good.”
Often times the men are met with a new understanding of the narrative that has defined them and start to rewrite their story no longer as the victim, but as the victor.
Freedom from addiction becomes a reality as the behaviors that resulted from trauma are no longer bound to a cycle of unaddressed trauma.
Two weeks seems like a long time; but it’s also very short in terms of traditional treatment models. Every moment of the Boulder Recovery intensives is intentional and designed for renewal of the mind, body and spirit.
- Movement and Healing: Clients embark on daily morning hikes at the foothills and throughout the Rocky Mountains.
- Double Occupancy for Sleeping: Sharing a room allows the men to live in community, connect with one another after group, and for the miracle of recovery to happen when the men start to show more vulnerability before bed and early mornings.
Digital Detox: For maximum connection and focus clients are relieved of their electronic devices for the two weeks that they are in the intensive with the exception of a 15 min phone call that occurs on the second Wednesday of the program following the reading of partner impact letters
It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners
.Mark 2:17 NIV